Discretion effects all of us in the hobby. It is obvious that both sides seek to protect themselves. Each for different reasons that are really soooo similar. Neither side wants to have any ill effects from the encounter. No one side really has more to lose, so it is important to make sure that your companion takes every precaution to keep you safe.
I have a very strict screening process and I do understand why some gentlemen would have a problem with it. I don't feel that I am overly invasive by asking for a name, a contact number and the information on other providers you have seen. It is not like I am asking for your social security number or DL#, I just want to be sure I am going to be safe seeing you. I can't and won't simply answer your call and tell you to come on over. If you are seeing ladies that follow this very dangerous process, you are courting disaster. They have NO clue of who they are seeing and neither do you.
First off you should be doing your homework on a lady, NOT just looking at her photos. Does she have reviews? Are they good reviews? Is she established or very new on the scene? If she is new, you might want to wait awhile. In the long run it could save you a lot of heartache. If she has reviews and they are bad, well, then you have to see why they are bad and how many of them are bad. If it is just one or two, it is reasonable to assume that we can't click with everyone we see.
Secondly, take a look at her screening process. If she does no screening, be afraid. I know I would be.
Thirdly, does she make an attempt to be sure that you are safe? If she returns your call does she ask if you can talk or does she just rush right in? Has she even ASKED you in your screening to provide a "safe" time if you have asked her to call?
There are lots of little clues when choosing a lady. Lets all help one another and be safe.
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